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Definition: Bisexual = people who ♥ people of Same/Similar Gender as themselves + ♥ people of Different Genders/Gender Presentations from themselves

Bisexuals - A person whose enduring physical, romantic and/or emotional attraction is to other people of various sexes and/or gender identities. Individuals may experience this attraction in differing ways and degrees over their lifetime. ~BiNet USA Bisexual Media Guide

DEFINITION OF BISEXUALITY: I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted - romantically and/or sexually - to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.  from “Selected Quotes” by Robyn Ochs

Bisexuals = people who can people of SAME/SIMILAR Gender as them + can people of DIFFERENT Genders/Gender Presentations from themselves ~Anonymous via Twitter

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Bi Visibility Day is September 23rd! It’s when our visibilty powers wane and we dance in the woods together for unity. I think…
PS: @biireland is a thing!

danielle lavigne:

"Nothing important"

Bi Visibility Day is September 23rd! It’s when our visibilty powers wane and we dance in the woods together for unity. I think…

PS: @biireland is a thing!


Stop telling nonbinary bisexuals that bisexuality is not inclusive to nonbinary folk 2k14

Stop telling nonbinary bisexuals that we’re ~*~actually pansexual~*~ 2k14

Stop defining bisexuality for bisexuals 2k14

What is bisexuality? Here are definition from many reputable Bisexual Groups from several countries on more than one continent. Remember the only people who get to define Bisexuality is the Bisexual Community itself.

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About Orange is the New Black's erasure of Piper's bisexuality Lindsay King-Miller writes: "It’s as though this show (and really, almost all fiction) exists in a parallel universe where everything is the same except that the word "bisexual" was never invented. … the bi erasure in Orange Is the New Black doesn’t seem to come from individual characters so much as it emerges from the fabric of the show itself, particularly since the characters on the show who erase or disrespect Piper’s orientation are never portrayed as wrong or flawed for doing so. … Contrast this, for example, with the portrayal of Laverne Cox’s Sophia, a trans woman. It would be absurd to tell a story about a trans woman that features no discrimination, and Orange doesn’t try. But the show does offer Sophia ample opportunity to respond to transphobic policies and comments, to speak out against the way the system and people within it attempt to dehumanize her, to tell her own story in her own words. Piper, on the other hand, almost never gets to correct anyone for projecting binary assumptions onto her.”


About Orange is the New Black's erasure of Piper's bisexuality Lindsay King-Miller writes: "It’s as though this show (and really, almost all fiction) exists in a parallel universe where everything is the same except that the word "bisexual" was never invented. … the bi erasure in Orange Is the New Black doesn’t seem to come from individual characters so much as it emerges from the fabric of the show itself, particularly since the characters on the show who erase or disrespect Piper’s orientation are never portrayed as wrong or flawed for doing so. … Contrast this, for example, with the portrayal of Laverne Cox’s Sophia, a trans woman. It would be absurd to tell a story about a trans woman that features no discrimination, and Orange doesn’t try. But the show does offer Sophia ample opportunity to respond to transphobic policies and comments, to speak out against the way the system and people within it attempt to dehumanize her, to tell her own story in her own words. Piper, on the other hand, almost never gets to correct anyone for projecting binary assumptions onto her.”


People are being super considerate to not label anyone as ‘queer’ against their will, but if a bisexual person asks for their relationships to please not being labeled as ‘gay’ or ‘straight’, it is somehow ridiculous and too much to ask for.

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Happy Bi Pride/Bi Visibility Day! If you’re looking for something to do to celebrate, bisexual-community has a whole bunch of resources here. Fellow bisexuals, know that we are important, our feelings are valid, and we are not alone. (And for the last time, it’s not a phase.) Have a great day!

Bi PrideDay/Bi Visibility Day officially happens every September 23rd (since 1999!) but as it gets more and more popular you will find Events For and About the Bisexual/(Non-Monosexual) + Queer-identified Community take place throughout the entire month of September

Look here to find events worldwide for Bi Visibility Day 2014:

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It has only been recently that the bisexual community is being recognized in mainstream media in ways that don’t just sexualize our identities. There are still many instances of biphobia, bi invisibility, and bi erasure in and out of the LGBT community.
Eliel Cruz, co-founder of the Intercollegiate Adventist Gay-Straight Alliance Coalition  (via thequbestout)


[Image: Stylized Gold-toned Sun set on Pink, Purple and Blue Marble. Detail from St. Johann Nepomuk (built 1733 to 1746) in Munich Bavaria, Better known as the Asam Church (German: Asamkirche), the church is considered as one of the most important representatives of the main southern German Late Baroque buildings.]


Lesbian graphic artist Alison Bechdel is officially a winner of a MacArthur Genius Grant this year. The $625,000 grant is given to creative visionaries, scientists, scholars and others to support the amazing work they’re already doing.

Bechdel is well-known for the simple test she derived to judge the representation of women in film, as well as the iconic 1985 comic Dykes To Watch Out For and plenty of other amazing work:

The rule, now known as the , calls for basic inclusion of women in film. The concept shouldn’t be so revolutionary, but when women had only 30 percent of speaking roles and 15 percent of leads in last year’s top films it is clear we have a lot of work left to do. It’s great to see the MacArthur Foundation honoring someone doing that work.

Bechdel has also earned well-deserved praise for graphic novels including 2006′s Fun Home and and 2012′s Are You My Mother. In August, it was announced that the stage production of Fun Home is officially headed to Broadway after years as a beloved Off-Broadway experience.

HELL. YES. She deserves this a million times over. For info on other LGBT grant winners, click here

Asker Anonymous Asks:
what's your opinion on GSA's, like in schools? the sixth form im going to now has one and i don't know whether to get involved or not. i get that they're trying to support LGBT students but the name really puts me off, because i'm bi, and because they include straight allies.
bisexual-community bisexual-community Said:


It varies from school to school, some GSA’s despite the name are actually really inclusive and include allies in the way you are supposed to, which is to educate them to be supportive and go into heterosexist and cissexist spaces to make them safe for LGBTQ people.

However, some can be the opposite, so I’d ask around to see how yours operates and whether it is worth your time getting involved, if you hear and see good things I’d definitely give it a go and maybe give them advice on being more inclusive of bisexual students and getting more outreach in general.

Organisations like this, when run well, I think are essential to young MOGAI people.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hi! I'm sorry to bother, but I have a question. I have a friend who looks white (blonde, light skin, green eyes) but was actually born and raised in India by her Hindu parents. She practices Hinduism and only recently moved to the states. She still wears traditional clothing, but the other day she posted a picture of herself in her traditional clothes and got a lot of hate for it, people saying it was cultural appropriation. She's bummed out about it and is now questioning her ethnicity. Help?
bisexual-community bisexual-community Said:




Know the difference.


We are a multicultural,  multiethnic and multiracial world and this needs to be celebrated not policed.

Simpleminded stereotypes about what people from different places and of various racial, gender and sexual identities "should" look, speak, dress and act like need to be discarded like yesterdays garbage.  Instead we all need to be educated, sensitive, informed, aware and strive for Cultural Competency


1. All those people screaming cultural appropriation at her are ignoramuses who are basically saying, “Wow, you don’t look like my ill-informed, narrow-minded stereotype of what people from this region actually look like!” and “I actually subscribe to horrible, reductionist stereotypes that Indian people can only have dark hair, skin and eyes. Light hair? Green eyes? European (origin) only!” 

This is gonna be a tad long, because it’s gonna delve into biology and history- and it’s because I hope people realise how artificial the US paradigm of race is. It’s woefully incompetent at understanding the biological diversity of our species because it is a social construct. Modern scientists and historians generally refuse to categorise people on the amount of melanin they have because it’s just reductionist and oversimplistic- what they do is classify people by their geographic origin, linguistic and cultural ties. 

2. India is an EXTREMELY diverse continent. It’s so genetically diverse that the only place more genetically diverse is the African continent, aka, the birthplace of humanity. And this is a big deal. I’ll explain why.


Surprise! People inhabiting an extremely large country that has more than 2000 ethnic groups, members of all the world’s religions, been the site of multiple ancient civilisations, been on the major crossroads of human migration and trade for thousands of years come in multiple colours!

  • Presently, the most widely-accepted theory of our origins is the Recent African Origin, or Out of Africa TheoryThis holds that originally, humans first appeared in Africa, thus all of us have African ancestors. All modern non-Africans are descended from much smaller groups of people who migrated out of Africa, anytime from 65,000 to 125,000 years ago. How do scientists know this? By looking at our DNA, in addition to fossil and archaeological records. They discovered that the differences in the DNA of non-African peoples like say, a German a Japanese and a New Zealand Maori was far less than the genetic differences between people from different African ethnic groups. (Somali, Dinka, Yoruba, San, Kikuyu, Luo etc- I’m BARELY scratching the surface)
  • What this meant was that Africa had to be the original, diverse genetic pool where modern humans first appeared. Everybody else outside of Africa today is descended from much smaller groups of people who left Africa at various times- and that ancestral genetic “bottleneck” is why people who appear to have very different heritage (e.g European vs East Asian) actually have far less genetic variation than the various African peoples.
  • So, India being the second most genetically diverse place on this planet is a big deal- it’s basically second only to THE CRADLE OF HUMANITY. That’s why I’m pretty convinced your friend can have blonde hair and green eyes and still be 100% Made in India.

3. Now, the genetics of India itself.

Genetic studies have shown that if you take a modern Indian from any part of India, no matter how dark or fair they are, his or her lineage will consist of mixing from two main ancestral groups. One is the Ancestral Northern Indians (ANI), and the other the Ancestral Southern Indians (ASI). You may have heard of the ancient Indian caste system which put a lot of social pressure that prohibited marrying outside your caste. Caste discrimination is banned today, but old attitudes do persist. However, even this caste rigidity wasn’t so 4000- 2000 years ago. ANI people married ASI pretty freely, so that’s why every modern Indian has heredity from both groups. So, already to start off, you got quite a fair bit of diversity hidden in people’s genes. 

  • And the next interesting part to explain why it IS possible for Indians to have features stereotyped as “European” is because while the ASI seemed to be genetically unique to the Indian subcontinent, the ANI people are genetically related to Middle-Easterns, Europeans and Caucasians (and I mean this not in the sense of “white” as often used in the US, but the actual region of Caucasus, which borders Europe and Asia).
  • You mentioned she looks “white”- and the American-understanding of “white” being hurled at her by those people screaming cultural appropriation are actually ignorantly treating “white” as synonymous with “European-origin”. In reality, it’s completely useless in the realm of biology. Biologically, there is actually no real dichotomy where “European” suddenly ends and “Asia” begins. 


  • As I earlier pointed out, well, we’re all kinda related. And it’s not at all earth-shattering that some people from India look like they’re of “European-origin”. Because modern Europeans, Central Asians and the Ancestral Northern Indians are all believed to be descendants of a group of people called the Proto-Indo-Europeans. It’s believed they lived around 6000-7000 years ago. Some modern people that are descended from the Proto-Indo-Europeans are French, Germans, Iranians and Pashtuns (a major ethnic group in Afghanistan).  It’s even been found that Europeans and Indians shared a gene for fair skin from a common ancestor- which is why there ARE people who look like your friend. Naturally, fair skin is just relatively rarer in India vs Europe because more parts of India are located in hotter regions. Therefore, there’s more selection pressure for darker skin which has more melanin to protect from the sun- making fair skin rarer, but still possible. 


(This is a map of the Kurgan Hypothesis, which is currently the most popular theory for how the Proto-Indo-Europeans migrated from their homeland to settle Europe, Central Asia, Iran, India and Turkey etc)

  • Saying Indians are descendants of the Proto-Indo-Europeans is NOT the same as saying they’re of “European origin”. For example, think of the Proto-Indo-Europeans as like the “mother” of Europeans, Central Asians and the Ancestral Northern Indians- they’re like “sibling” groups, not descendants. The original Indo-Europeans were not “European” in the modern sense. I am clarifying this because plenty of colonial-era scientific racism tried to attribute ancient India’s achievements to “European who left Europe for India”- you might have heard the phrase “Aryan” thrown around in Nazi Germany, which was used to mean “blonde hair, blue eyes”. Nazi scientists and historians also abused it to explain away the sophistication of non-European civilisations in Ancient Egypt and India. In reality, ”Aryan” is derived from the ancient Sanskrit word “Arya" which means "noble". Sanskrit is an ancient language still used in classical Indian texts, and is of Proto-Indo-European origin. For example, the name of the country “Iran” actually means “land of the Aryans”- it was the names ancient Iranians (another people descended from the Proto-Indo-Europeans) gave to what others called the Persian Empire for more than a thousand years before the Third Reich. 

image(Sanskrit manuscript)

  • Furthermore, many languages we often separate as “European” and “Asian” like German, English, French, Italian vs. Hindi, Farsi (Persian), Gujarati, Punjabi, Pashto, Sanskrit etc are ALL classified by linguists as belonging to the same Indo-European language family- which all evolved from the original language the Proto-Indo-Europeans spoke. See how artificial the Europe/Asia dichotomy really is, in terms of human genetics and origin of cultures? 

4. Finally- there’s plenty of modern proof that the region we call Europe today does NOT have a monopoly on producing people with blonde hair, fair skin and green eyes.

This is Aishwarya Rai Bachchan, a popular Indian Bollywood actress who is also known for her striking blue-green eyes. She’s 100% Indian- she was born in Mangalore, India to Indian parents. 


This is a couple at their wedding- the lady on the left is Indian, from the Southern Indian city of Hyderabad. Her husband is Ethiopian.image

This is a photo of a boy and a woman who is likely his mother, taken in Turkey.


This is a girl from Darfur, Sudan- an area that has more than 30 ethnic groups.


This is a Nuristani girl. The Nuristani people are an ethnic group from Afghanistan. 


5. And in the first place, what makes up a person’s identity IS NOT JUST HOW MUCH or HOW LITTLE MELANIN THEY HAVE.

  • Tell your friend she is 100% Indian, because what makes up her identity is not just how she looks. Identity is what feels most natural to her, and if that identity is indeed very intertwined with major aspects of Indian culture- then well, she IS Indian and noone can say otherwise. 
  • Those people had no right to make her feel awful and “not-Indian enough” because it’s clear she identifies as such due to actually being born there and also practising major aspects of Indian culture. The best example I can think of to explain this is how in the US, people sometimes use the term “Latino” as a race category, with the stereotype that all latinos must have tanned skin and dark hair. In reality, it’s more of a cultural identity. The are fair haired-latinos and darker-skinned latinos whose ancestors included the African slaves brought to the Americas four hundred years ago. But what really makes them “Latino” or “Hispanic” is their upbringing- growing up in the environment of Latin America, which is culturally a syncretic fusion of Amerindian, African, Spanish, Portuguese and other European influences. 


(This is the Brazilian football team that won the 1970 World Cup- you can see Pelé- second from the bottom right. He is an Afro-Brazilian. If you look at his teammates, you can see how latinos come in ALL COLOURS.)

6. Your friend should not be questioning her identity, but those people attacking her should be questioning their utterly myopic worldview. The history of human genetics and migrations makes it abundantly clear how DIVERSE India is- so it’s perfectly possible for her to be Indian but have blonde hair and green eyes, even if it may be less common. 

7. On a more general note, I cannot stress this enough to everyone- DO NOT GO AROUND ATTACKING PEOPLE for “cultural appropriation” when you are NOT even from that culture in question and/or don’t actually know in detail the history and genetics of that region.

  • If you suspect cultural appropriation: DO YOUR RESEARCH FIRST or ASK SOMEBODY you know who actually belongs to that group. You may be attacking mixed-race people or people like the anon’s friend, who simply has features that are less genetically dominant- blonde hair shows up less easily in countries with a bigger pool of people with dark hair because dark hair is dominant. Even if her parents had dark hair, it’s possible they both carried a recessive gene for blonde hair that was suppressed by their dark-hair gene. Their child would be blonde if she happened to get both copies of the blonde gene instead of the dark hair gene.
  • Also, even if you think the person isn’t of that group, please bear in mind they might have been invited to dress in that clothing by a friend, or because they’re at an event. (I.e let’s say, at an Indian wedding)
  • I can’t stress how infuriating this “white knight” complex is. Speaking as someone pretty familiar with colonialism, I’ve had people who didn’t grow up in my culture condescendingly insist that if I’m okay with somebody doing something from my culture, it’s “self-internalised oppression”. I’ve studied African colonial literature, and the way people insist on defining what people should be alright with is very reminiscent of 19th century imperialists high-handedly saying, “oh, we have to bring the light of civilisation to save those backwards colonial subjects from themselves!”


This is Reese Witherspoon, wearing a kimono in Japan, where she is being taught by JAPANESE people how to perform the traditional tea ceremony. This is not reducing a culture to a caricature because she’s actually learning stuff respectfully and wearing a bona fide kimono.

  • Fighting against cultural appropriation is to prevent cultures from being cheapened, made into jokes, sexual fetishes or ugly caricatures. Part of returning power to people to define themselves is ALSO by allowing them to set the parameters of what they want to share with others- and many cultures are perfectly willing to share aspects that are non-sacred or do not have to be earned. So, for example, do not go around insisting a Japanese person should not be allowed to teach non-Japanese people to wear a kimono- because a kimono, unlike a Navajo war bonnet (akin to veteran’s medals), is something anybody can wear. Recognise this difference.

"I do believe that the analogy for bisexuality is a multicultural, multi-ethnic, multiracial world view. Bisexuality follows from such a perspective and leads to it, as well." ~June Jordan (1936-2002)


Stop throwing bi people in different-gender relationships under the bus 2k14

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Please Help a Brother Out:  Come Fund Top Surgery for Bryan

By now practically everyone in the Queer Nation has heard the story of the really unfortunate incidents that occurred in March 2013 on the Washington Mall during the Supreme Court arguments on the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA).  

But do you know the real people who it happened to?  Well meet the guy who was holding the Trans* Flag that day.  

As Bryan Ellicott explains, what started as a happy and exciting day of LGBT Pride & History turned into his Supreme Court Marriage Rally Transphobic Experience From Hell when a staffer and one of the big Gay Inc. groups (ok so it was HRC again) became upset to see other than approved people and symbols cluttering up their photo-op moments and tried to run the riffraff off.  With Bryan his Flag suddenly thrust unwilling into a staring role as "unapproved riffraff".

A political activist for the progressive and LGBT community Bryan describes himself as an open and proud bisexual transman”. 

A native of Staten Island NY graduating from College of Staten Island with a BA in Poli Sci, he has interned in the offices of then City Council Speaker Christine Quinn,  and then Brooklyn Borough President Marty Markowitz. During 2012, he went out and worked in the Ohio OFA (Organizing for Action) office helping re-elect Obama to a second term and he was a campaign aid (LGBT Liaison) to Mel Wymore in his run for the New York City Council. Bryan is also a long-time board member of the Stonewall Democrats of New York City. In the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy Bryan worked with FEMA doing Community Relations work.

In June of 2014 Bryan sued NYC for discrimination after he was ordered to use the wrong public pool locker room.

Says Bryan,

"the bulk of my work is in the LGBT community whether it be advocating for Marriage Equality across the country, calling out the need those who talk ill to me or any of my transgender brothers and sisters as well as my continued work for Gender Expression Non-Discrimination Act (GENDA) in New York State or when it comes to people learning about bisexuality and not thinking those horrible myths are anything but that.”

When trouble came Bryan and his friends were there standing strong representing the the entire LGBT Community.  So while you are cheering the symbolism please also remember the actual person. Says Bryan,

"I wanted to ask you my brothers and sisters to help me in my journey. Top surgery is my next step toward the place I want to be.  Anything you can do to help me would be most appreciated and if you could share this with others that would be amazing as well.”

So what do you says people? He was there for us. Can you be there for him? Please click the link and Help Fund Top Surgery for Bryan.   Thanks

September 2014 (Update)
We’re almost there. Less than $1K!! Can you help?

Says Bryan, "Everyday I become more of the man I see myself too be … We have a short period of time but I am super excited too give me my dream. I need just a little more help and we are there”.

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Tuesday September 23rd 2014 @ 2pm EST: Join Campus Pride and other bisexual + bi-friendly students for a special Google+ Hangout for Bi Visibility Day featuring Bisexual Student Activist + Journalist Eliel Cruz

says Cruz, "Put this in your calendars. Tuesday is Bisexual Celebration Day and the entire week is Bisexual Awareness Week! On Tuesday i’ll be joining a google hangout with Campus Pride to discuss biphobia, bisexuality on our campuses, and bi visibility in media. Join us!"

HERE IS THE LINK: BiVisibility Day 2014: What Bi Looks Like on Campus


The thing is when you’re bisexual, you’re not really surprised when a straight person is biphobic. Sure it sucks and you’re like “well fuck you too dude” to whoever the prick is; but it’s not so astonishing.

Biphobic gay people on the other hand, actually hurt like a motherfucker. Like bro you’re supposed to be on my side??? Like even “my people” can’t accept me?? That hurts so much more than some random dude who expects a threesome.

Californian parent Mike Szymanski, co-author of The Bisexual’s Guide to the Universe has for many years had to deal with many questions about his sexuality. In a society that likes to see things in a clear-cut, binary, black and white way, bisexuality can often confuse people, or even prompt suspicion.

'I always knew that I was interested in boys and girls… And I didn’t really know what bisexuality meant or used the word because I came out as gay first and I told my parents and it was a big deal.’ And then I was sleeping around with a woman and they thought that it was strange. I was living in West Hollywood and we would go to gay clubs but I was with a woman. And then I thought, “Well, okay, maybe I’m bisexual”.’

For example, after his parents adjusted to the fact that a young Mike was attracted to men, they then had to understand why he also wanted to date some women. ‘Well if you’re bisexual why would you choose the wrong way?’ his dad asked him once … ‘It’s often a frequent conversation with the family at Thanksgiving dinner, they don’t understand it. “So you’re still bisexual?” “Yeah, we’re still bisexual.”’

Szymanski went on to become a spokesperson for bisexuality, appearing on talk shows and being interviewed for newspaper articles. It was through such an article that he met his partner, American Institute of Bisexuality’s John Sylla, who read about him and got in touch …

We have a child … we’re pretty much a nuclear family. And we’re boring… we go to the PTA meetings and concerts. But we’re together and we both identify as bisexuals and that throws a lot of people off’…

Szymanski has now recorded an illuminating video in which he discusses being bisexual, dating women, how he met his long-term male partner, and how they’re raising a child.