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Definition: Bisexual = people who ♥ people of Same/Similar Gender as themselves + ♥ people of Different Genders/Gender Presentations from themselves

Bisexuals = people who can people of SAME/SIMILAR Gender as themselves + can people of DIFFERENT Genders/Gender Presentations from themselves

DEFINITION OF BISEXUALITY: I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted - romantically and/or sexually - to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.  from “Selected Quotes” by Robyn Ochs

Bisexuals - A person whose enduring physical, romantic and/or emotional attraction is to other people of various sexes and/or gender identities. Individuals may experience this attraction in differing ways and degrees over their lifetime. ~BiNet USA Bisexual Media Guide

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Within the lesbian community I am Black, and within the Black community I am a lesbian. Any attack against Black people is a lesbian and gay issue, because I and thousands of other Black women are part of the lesbian community. Any attack against lesbians and gays is a Black issue, because thousands of lesbians and gay men are Black. There is no hierarchy of oppression.

It is not accidental that the Family Protection Act, which is virulently anti-woman and anti-Black, is also anti-gay. As a Black person, I know who my enemies are, and when the Ku Klux Klan goes to court in Detroit to try and force the Board of Education to remove books the Klan believes “hint at homosexuality,” then I know I cannot afford the luxury of fighting one form of oppression only. I cannot afford to believe that freedom from intolerance is the right of only one particular group. And I cannot afford to choose between the fronts upon which I must battle these forces of discrimination, wherever they appear to destroy me. And when they appear to destroy me, it will not be long before they appear to destroy you.




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This was my interview with the Executive Producers from Constantine. I asked a question to David S Goyer regarding the rumors on Constantine and the bisexual erasure that has been floating around the internet.

I tried to keep my question respectful, as I’m a junior journalist, and didn’t want to rock the boat. …getting accused of being a fake geek girl, being told that because he wasn’t bisexual until 12 years into the comics it doesn’t really matter….was not what I expected. The guy picked a fight with me, and as someone who genuinely has loved his screenwriting work, I was really disappointed.

I understand that he may be defensive, given the amount of questions he’s been getting on the subject recently, but speaking to me like this wasn’t…called for? 

I will say the other producer, Daniel Cerone, was very nice and gracious, as was the entirety of the cast. I can only hope that Mr. Goyer was just running on little sleep.

But still, some of my followers wanted me to ask the question, and I did. Here is your answer. (Also I know I should have said Vertigo, not Image—that I got some of my facts wrong, but I was a bit flustered, so I think I can be forgiven the mistake).

I think the absolute worst part of this is the fact that both of them (meaning the producers, not Mr. Goyer and the interviewer) seem to be implying that the only way to explicitly acknowledge his bisexuality onscreen is to have him sleep with a man. That and the fact that he is basically saying over and over again that bisexuality is just unimportant (and yes, that really is the implication of “it’s unimportant to the character” it really really is.) Apparently being a smoker has waaaaay more affect on what kind of person someone is. That’s new information to me.

I won’t be watching this show and I honestly just utterly loathe this bigoted sack of shit who is reponsible for it

Any clueless fucking moron who thinks that a characters sexuality is ‘unimportant’ is the kind of cretin whose work I am not going to have ANY interest or desire to support with either my time or my money

Honestly seeing this bullshit from David S Goyer doesn’t surprise me in the least. I don’t know whether he’s got a problem with bisexuals or whether he’s just being a good boy and doing what the network tells him because their too fucking cowardly, WEAK and SPINELESS to have an openly bisexual hero starring in their show and he’s too pathetic to insist upon it…nor do I care. I loathe COWARDS as much as I despise bigots

Either way, I’m not wasting one second of my time on watching Constantine

You know why he wasn’t shown as bi until 12 years into the comic?  BECAUSE THE CHARACTER WAS INTRODUCED IN 1985!!  Are they seriously advancing the argument that his bisexuality isn’t important because it wasn’t part of the original story — which was written during the height of panic and misinformation about AIDS, in which gay and bisexual men were regularly demonized in media with virulent homophobia?

It isn’t 1985 any more and these excuses just don’t cut it.  Especially not when delivered with a smug grin like David S. Goyer is excited to have a ‘gotcha!’.  The cultural climate today is VASTLY different then in 1985.  I don’t think he realizes how awful that makes him and his show look that they are building excuses around what was a really dark time for the queer community.  

Also I’m not sure I understand what Daniel Cerone is saying about making the story darker and the lack of interference from NBC. It doesn’t really help their case.

Is he arguing that no one at NBC told them to strip the bi from John Constantine?  Because then it sounds like the change is just coming from their personal prejudices against bi men.  There are more ways to show a character is bi then to have him jump in bed with a dude.  Seriously.  Your excuse is ‘it’s not network pressure we’re just lazy writers’?

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The institution of heterosexism is based on a mutually exclusive heterosexual/homosexual framework. This heterosexist paradigm posits two sexual orientations on either side of a "fence" that draws the line where privilege begins and ends. Heterosexuals are on the "normal/good" side and homosexuals are on the "abnormal/evil" side. The line separates and protects "us" from "them," while it assures members of each side of what they are not. This line also effectively marginalizes lesbians and gay men as "other" and is the core of homophobia.

Furthermore, lesbian, gay, and heterosexual people are invested, and find a sense of security in being the "other" to each other, and unite in the fact that they are only attracted to either the "same" or the "opposite" gender/sex.

This sets up another "us" vs. "them" dynamic which effectively marginalizes bisexual people as "other." Integral to this dynamic is the automatic assumption people can be defined by the gender/sex of their current or potential romantic interest. For example: two women are assumed to be lesbians in a "lesbian" relationship; two men are assumed to be gay in a "gay" relationship; and a man and woman are assumed to be heterosexual in a "heterosexual" relationship.

However, any, or all of these people could be bisexual. And depending upon monogamy and non-monogamy agreements and choices, any, or all of these folks could have sexual behavior with more than one gender/sex whether they identify as bisexual or not.
What is Heterosexism? from What Does Biphobia Look Like? pub 2014 by LGBT Resource Center UC San Diego (via bialogue-group)


i never ever want to erase my girlfriend’s bisexuality.  sometimes i refer to us as lesbians, despite being a nonbinary demigirl myself and her being bisexual, and i always end up correcting myself because she is not solely interested in women and i never want to erase her identity.

When targets of microaggressions attempt to point out the offensive nature of remarks and actions from perpetrators, they are told that their perceptions are inaccurate, that they are oversensitive, or that they are paranoid. In other words, they are out of touch with reality. The experiential realities of those in power are imposed upon less powerful groups by denying their perceptions and life experiences. Interestingly, some have asserted or found that those groups who are least empowered have the most accurate assessment of reality. Such a conclusion makes common sense, as those in power do not need to understand disempowered groups to survive or do well, while those without much power must actively discern the mindset and motives of those with power in order to survive. Women in the workforce must understand the thinking of their male counterparts to do well, but the reciprocal is not true for men.


bisexual? looking for positive, accurate representation in media? boy have i got some upsetting news for you

Dissecting a character to fit a heteronormative box is sloppy and irresponsible. Bisexuals deserve to be represented in media too — not erased or straight-washed. If NBC can’t handle portraying a bisexual male character, then perhaps the network shouldn’t take on John Constantine.

Sexuality is always a part of a character — however minimal — but some sort of romantic or sexual relationship is usually a significant plot point in superhero stories. A bisexual male superhero would disrupt the hetero male template of, “hero saves damsel in distress” that we see consistently in iconic stories like Superman, Spiderman, and Captain America. But it’s 2014, and sometimes men need saving too.

There’s something particularly elusive about bisexual male characters. There is a deeply ingrained misconception that a man can’t be romantically involved with another man and still be interested in women as well. It’s centered on the idea that masculinity requires a wanting, and “getting” of women, and not men. But the depiction of Constantine in Hellblazer proves that is a false assumption.

NBC’s Straight-Washing of John Constantine is Bi Erasure | Eliel Cruz for the Advocate Magazine (via gaywrites)

It’s bad enough networks don’t create bisexual characters let alone when they "straightwash" an existing one from (30 years!) canon. Make your voice heard!

  1. Sign the Petition then signal boost it to your friends on Tumblr, Facebook, Twitter, and anything else you can think of
  2. Tweet using the hashtag #BiBlazer (A combination of Bisexual and Hellblazer) to stop the bi erasure of a canon bisexual character. Direct your tweets to @JohnConWriters and @NBCConstantine.

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bialogue-group: On Growing Movements Like Gardens

What do the environment, sustainability, and social movements have in common?  Natural systems may teach us to understand how movements grow like gardens and the nature of the key players in each stage of a movement…

Often the early adopters, the brave, first, outspoken pioneers in any movement, bear the brunt of negative reaction from the status quo when they first speak out with new understanding. They need a thick skin to withstand society’s pressure to return to the norm. Yet they are just one set of players on the progression of change, each expressing the different stages of a movement and requiring different powers to face resistance to change…

People who are the second or third generation of a movement often have entirely different characteristics, goals and needs than the pioneers. They may not have been able to take hold in the harshness of the first degraded environment, but they, in turn, contribute to the microclimate and help it become richer, more favorable, and, importantly, they help it spread.

Even though their look and function may be entirely different, their existence is critical in the succession model and movement towards a thriving ecosystem. Without this diversity, no ecosystem can emerge, thrive, and sustain itself

I have noticed that there can be strong misunderstanding among people of different generations who share principles, goals, and values, and I believe it is a result of not understanding our places in the stages of growing a movement. In the environmental movement

I sometimes noticed resentment from the pioneers towards the more tender newcomers who might expect to be able to express themselves more easily in the current environment.

I also noticed impatience on the part of newcomers to pioneers’ thorniness and attachment to their founding roles.

Yet the environment teaches us that without pioneers, the next generations cannot take hold and thrive; and without the next generations of different beings the whole movement stagnates and does not thrive

If we are to all move forward as a whole towards a healthy ecosystem or social system that enables every one of us to thrive regardless of who we are, how tough we are, or what our aspirations are, we must embrace and accept that each person has an important role to play and appreciate how interdependent our relationships are to the whole system’s success.

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clarification: professional experience isn’t a requirement babelies


When I first started college I wore my LGBTQ button
on my book bag with conviction
but now I wear it with shame
because a bisexual college girl has become a cliche.

My closet has many rooms.

I am tired of being questioned by professors
if I am gay because most of my protagonists are.
I am tired of my boyfriend suggesting we have a threesome
because we would both enjoy it.
I am tired of being the exception to monogamy.
I am tired of being a phase
when phase is just another word for slut in my case
I am tired of being painted as a drunk straight girl
my feelings for my best friend in high school
cannot be compared to a hangover
I am tired of feeling guilty
for having a boyfriend all through high school
because even though I didn’t love him
he helped me survive in a small town
where too many LGBTQ buttons
were met with violence.

When I first came out to my mother
she slammed the closet door in my face.
She said bisexuality did not exist
that you are either straight or gay
and being gay is fine
but since I was her daughter she knew
that I was doing this for attention.

She knew that I was doing this for attention.

I am tired of being a private spectacle.
I am tired of being a conversation
you save until the fifth date
I have opened the closet door but I have not stepped out
because I am tired of being a trope
but if i’m going to be a stereotype
at least make me a permanent one.

I am tired of being seen as temporary.

To my boyfriend, I am tired of proving my commitment to you.
To my gay friends, I am sorry I didn’t fight the same battle as you.
To my fellow bisexual college girls, be proud.
To my mother,

do I have your attention now?


Things I am: 

A Bisexual

Things I am not:

Confused about my sexuality
Confused about my dislike for your biphobia.



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There is no "wrong way" to be bisexual

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