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Definition: Bisexual = people who ♥ people of Same/Similar Gender as themselves + ♥ people of Different Genders/Gender Presentations from themselves

Bisexuals = people who can people of SAME/SIMILAR Gender as themselves + can people of DIFFERENT Genders/Gender Presentations from themselves

DEFINITION OF BISEXUALITY: I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted - romantically and/or sexually - to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.  from “Selected Quotes” by Robyn Ochs

Bisexuals - A person whose enduring physical, romantic and/or emotional attraction is to other people of various sexes and/or gender identities. Individuals may experience this attraction in differing ways and degrees over their lifetime. ~BiNet USA Bisexual Media Guide

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[Image: The hardest thing to do is to say that I am Bisexual. Lesbian or Straight always seems easier.]

Once upon a time (not too too long ago) it was also considered SO horrifying to admit to being a Lesbian — a word that in popular imagination associated with licentiousness, loose morals, mental illness, suicide, porn, and perversion — that the early Lesbian Pride Group of the 1950’s, the Daughters of Bilitis wrote instead in their mission statement, which was printed on the inside of every cover of their magazine The Ladder until 1970:

1. Education of the variant…to enable her to understand herself and make her adjustment to society…this to be accomplished by establishing…a library…on the sex deviant theme; by sponsoring public discussions…to be conducted by leading members of the legal psychiatric, religious and other professions; by advocating a mode of behavior and dress acceptable to society.
2. Education of the public…leading to an eventual breakdown of erroneous taboos and prejudices…
3. Participation in research projects by duly authorized and responsible psychologists, sociologists, and other such experts directed towards further knowledge of the homosexual.
4. Investigation of the penal code as it pertain to the homosexual, proposal of changes,…and promotion of these changes through the due process of law in the state legislatures.”

New York chapter president Barbara Gittings noted that the word "variant" was used instead of "lesbian" in the mission statement, because "lesbian" was a word that had a very negative meaning in 1956.

It wasn’t until Homosexual (and Bisexual and Trans/Gender Non-Conforming) people finally heeded the call of Harvey Milk to "Come Out" even when difficult and started standing up and correcting the Myths + Stereotypes by publicly self-identify as Lesbian - actually using the Word - and by the example of their own lives show that the meaning the general public understood + universities + learned academics and doctors were teaching as fact, was a complete lie did the word “Lesbian” (and Gay which originally also had a sexual connotation of being a paid hustler and general low-down immoral slut) become the "respectable" words we think of today.

An example that people who shy away from the word Bisexual and try to twist and turn and rename themselves into "something more ‘respectable’ like … for example Lesbian + Gay" would do Very Well to Remember History and emulate what Lesbian Women and Gay Men did.

To quote bi writer Eponymous Fliponymous, The word is not the problem.

“Would you date a bisexual man?” Has to be one of the most annoying questions ever written anywhere, about anything. Its definitely one of the top three asinine questions I’ve ever come across … Ok, so maybe there are actually dumber questions …

… Reducing me to this singular monochromatic note is an exercise in dehumanization, objectification, and stereotyping. The focus on the word bisexual often blinds one to the other part of me, the fact that I am a man, a human being, with all the attendant issues, struggles, desires, dreams, foibles, aspirations, as any other man. It only hints at the “potential” for attraction to people of multiple gender, saying nothing about our ability to commit, which is no more fickle than any other sexual orientations, or relationship style.

It doesn’t feel any better to have people want me “because” I am bisexual than it does to have them not want me because I am bisexual. I am not an experience to have and then brag about …

If a bisexual man takes the time to tell you that he is bisexual, especially before sleeping with you … He is probably an ethical person, on some level; otherwise he wouldn’t have bothered telling you that he was bisexual … If you find a man you are attracted to and that man has character, strength, integrity, self respect, consciousness, love to give, the ability to ethically commit to an honorable relationship, and he is also attracted to you, you’d do well to give THAT man a chance.



You know what my favorite thing about this book is?


Yeah I put that in all caps and bolded it. Because it is that important. Because after choices like Bermudez Triangle/On The Count of Three and The Difference Between Me And You, teens deserve better. Bisexual teens deserve better.

And Frenemy of the People delivers.

Clarissa just realized she is bi and after having to give up her riding lessons because of her parents dire financial situation, she decides to try starting up a GSA. Lexie has been the only out teen at her school for years and wears her angry radical dyke armor with pride. They hate each other from the beginning. But when Clarissa begs her to come to GSA, sparks start to fly.

This book is both a slow romance, a laugh out loud comedy, and a drama with unexpected depth. There is a core of social justice in this book that is really refreshing. Early on in the book, Clarissa comes down on Lexie like a ton of bricks for using the slur ‘retarded’ and it is beautiful. And Lexie does exactly what you’re supposed to do when called out — apologizes and does better. Clarissa also doesn’t take any biphobic shit. Lexie cares a lot about animal welfare and class issues. Clarissa acknowledges that she doesn’t know much about trans people but also shows an openness and eagerness to learn as part of starting her GSA.

Frenemy of the People also really knocks it out of the park with Desi, Clarissa’s older sister who has Down Syndrome. Desi never feels like a ‘very special character’ and she doesn’t exist to inspire or educate anyone. Also the subtle messages about ableism in this book were great. Olson is not above subverting tropes of disability ‘inspiration porn’ as the girls campaign for Desi to become homecoming queen. Desi also joins them on their totally illegal and highly awesome nighttime vandalism.

I still think Olson could use a stronger editor to help her sharpen up some of her characterizations. Lexie comes off a bit too knowledgeable about mortgages and the housing crisis and Clarissa’s temper tantrum when Lexie’s mother buys her horse was a bit much for a teen that had been so level-headed in the lead up. But this book was light-years ahead of her last, Swans and Klons, which I thought was a hot mess.

But fundamentally this is a fun and sweet mixed-orientation romance with a real social justice heart. I highly recommend.

- Sarah


everybody I know has used heterosexuality as a stepping stone to coming out of the closet as gay or bi, so I think we need to have a serious conversation about whether heterosexuality exists


Looking at planet Earth in space with continent of Africa showing and the sun and a starfield in the background. The planet is depicted with as having a human face with multicultural features indicative of all the various races on the planet, looking back at the viewer with a serious expression.

There is a round satellite positioned as if it might be an earing, superimposed on which are the crossed LGBTQ+ Rainbow-Pride & the Rose-Lavender-Blue Bisexual-Pride Flags.

The caption reads: We can’t change the world if there is no world left to change. EARTH DAY: April 22nd

Friends of a blind bisexual asylum seeker from Cameroon are accusing UK deportation officers of beating him up.

Alain Kouayep Tchatchue fled after the people in his town discovered he was having sex with another man. Fearing being beaten or killed, the French speaker came to the UK in order to live and love freely.

The Home Office rejected his claim of asylum and issued a deportation order last week. Last Saturday (5 April), it was claimed immigration staff took him to Heathrow airport around 4am. It is claimed Tchatchue protested, saying he had a legal right to be there, and two male members of staff allegedly punched his wrists and upper torso in an attempt to make him submit. The blind man was then bundled into the van and taken to the airport, his friends claim.

They say he shouted ‘I’m gay, I’m gay! I don’t want to go back to Cameroon!’ as he was being attacked. A female member of staff, who was supposed to be looking after his welfare, then allegedly proclaimed Tchatchue was too ill to travel and the asylum seeker was returned to Harmondsworth Immigration Removal Centre close to the airport. On his return, the manager was so appalled by the injuries the police were called.

Reverend Andy Braunston, a friend of Tchatchue, has written to the director of public prosecutions Alison Saunders to ask the immigration staff to be prosecuted. ‘Alain is a blind man who uses a white stick to get around and who has fled here because of fear of the violence of the state in Cameroon,’ he said. ‘It is shameful that agents of our government have beaten this vulnerable man in an attempt to send him back to persecution. ‘We should be ashamed.’

The UK Border Agency decided in 2010 to allow gay men, lesbians and bisexuals if they were not allowed to live openly in their country of origin. Before 2010, those seeking asylum were often refused permission on the grounds they could behave with ‘discretion’ when returned.

However, some activists believe the attitude remains when it comes to bisexual refugees as it is apparently easier for them to be ‘discreet’.

When contacted by GSN, Harmondsworth Immigration Removal Centre refused to comment.


There is a disturbing lack of attention being paid to this story.

I identify as bisexual because I know I am able to love people of my own gender and of a gender different from me. I’m not straight, but I can pass as straight because I am married to a man. We will celebrate our 33rd wedding anniversary a few days after Easter.

It is important to examine and confess my own willingness to hide behind the assumption that I am straight for several reasons. When I lay low, I am essentially sinning by omission. I deny my whole, authentic mysterious being, made by God, known by God in my mother’s womb, declared by God to be good and so loved by God in Christ that He suffered and died for me. Peter denied Christ, and I join him when I deny any part of God’s precious gift of this life.

I cannot love God with my whole heart when I am keeping a central aspect of my self—my soul and body—hidden from both myself and from others. This is what made coming out as bisexual so energizing: my heart became way more harmonious than it had been before.

Whenever I pass as straight, I do not love God as fully as I am able. I also deny Christ’s love for me, the bi person.

Click HERE to read the Reverend Janet Edwards full Holy Week meditation

Reverend Janet Edwards is a Presbyterian minister in Pittsburgh, PA, and a Board Member of More Light Presbyterians, a national organization working toward full inclusion of LGBT people within the Presbyterian Church (USA). In 2008 Rev. Edwards was tried and unanimously acquitted by a church court for presiding at the wedding of two women. She is also an openly bisexual person and writes frequently on that topic.


Mix n’ Match - Have a Happy Easter (or Springtime Celebration of your choice)

More Bi Pride Easter Egg ideas for you to try out

(via transcendboundaries)

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Why are the colors pink, purple, and blue important for bisexuals on Easter? I see a lot of your posts today pertaining to that and it confused me.
bisexual-community bisexual-community Said:

Pink Purple and Blue are important to the Bisexual Community EVERY Day becasue they are the colours of the Bisexual Pride Flag.

If you look at our post Easy to make Easter Eggs in the Bisexal Pride Colors we explained what they mean.

Like so many things in the Bisexual Community it has many layer of meaning. It is so much more than what some think a first glance, just a simple mixing the blue (for boys!) and pink (for girls!),  with a nice purple blend of the two in the middle (purple was also adopted as a color for bisexuality in some unofficial capacity). So totally Cisgender and Heteronormative. And so totally incorrect. Just like a lot of the silly myths and stereotypes people try to force onto bisexuals.

Our Bisexual Flag was developed as community project with a person named Michael Page a Bisexual Activist from Florida as the chief designer, and project head. He deliberately used existing (and non-copyrighted) bisexual symbolism, saying, "In designing the Bi Pride Flag, I selected the colors and overlap pattern of the ‘bi angles' symbol.”

The pink represents same-sex attractions (aka gay and lesbian) and the blue is different sex (aka heterosexual) attractions; where those colors overlap in a color gradient of different shades of lavender/purple is attractions to both and all, representing the possibility of attraction anywhere along the entire gender spectrum, (bisexual) .

Which as you’ll notice also is a kind of visual "pun" on the (in)famous Kinsey Scale, with

Pink = representing Kinsey 0: Exclusively Homosexual
Blue = representing Kinsey 6: Exclusively Heterosexual
Purple = representing Kinsey 1 thru 5: all the variations of being bisexual - which is why one (cute) nickname for bisexuals in some parts of the world is the "Purple People" or the "Purple Menace".

and which incidentally is why quite a few Bisexual Groups have names like the 1 to 5 Club. Bisexuals just cannot seem to stop with all the endless word-play and puns! Even some of our famous books, Getting Bi: Voices of Bisexuals Around the World edited by Robyn Ochs, Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out edited by Professor Loraine Hutchins, PhD + Lani Kaahumanu, etc., etc. See what we mean? Always with the double + triple meanings and jokes.

But anyway getting back to the colours … also notice how the purple pixels blend unnoticeably into both the pink and blue? Just as the real world where bi folk blend in with both communities.

So this is why on various holidays, and everyday for that matter proud bisexual people find endless ways to include Our Colours into the celebrations.


A new religious statue in the town of Davidson, NC, is unlike anything you might see in church.

The statue depicts Jesus as a vagrant sleeping on a park bench. St. Alban’s Episcopal Church installed the homeless Jesus statue on its property in the middle of an upscale neighborhood filled with well-kept townhomes.

Jesus is huddled under a blanket with his face and hands obscured; only the crucifixion wounds on his uncovered feet give him away.

The reaction was immediate. Some loved it; some didn’t.

"One woman from the neighborhood actually called police the first time she drove by," says David Boraks, editor of "She thought it was an actual homeless person."

That’s right. Somebody called the cops on Jesus.

And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Since you have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, you have done it unto me.

(via bidyke)



Having some Bisexual Pride with your Pink + Purple + Blue Chocolate Easter Eggs

My mom tried to get me pink, blue, and purple Easter stuff! Lol I love her!


And They Lived Heterosexually Ever After: Why I’m Not Recapping Once Upon A Time Anymore


There have been some inquiries as to where the Once Upon A Time recaps have gone. This post is meant to answer those inquiries and address something that I believe is of grave concern to our community, a terrible disease lurking in the bones of many a piece of media. Yes, my dear friends, I speak of queerbaiting.

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While this essay is rooted in the TV show Once Upon A Time, it’s actually one of the best things about queerbaiting I’ve ever read.  We have not seen Mulan, the bisexual character a single time in the year since she was revealed to be bi.  That is not representation.

  It also contains this brilliant metaphor:

It’s sort of like showing up to Thanksgiving having said you’d bring green bean casserole, except you brought a single green bean on a paper plate. Even though this will obviously not feed any of the other guests and barely counts as a green bean casserole, you sneer at those who are protesting, telling them that they never specified what a green bean casserole is and besides that, they’re being whiny babies. You wave the single limp green bean in the air and tell them that it’s obvious they’ll never be happy, that they’re complaining for the sake of complaining and  that it’s no wonder they don’t get to eat quality green bean casserole because nobody wants to share green bean casserole with such an aggressive and unfriendly group. In other words, making a character bisexual only to immediately write them out of the show makes me feel like shoving a green bean up someone’s nose.

Go read the whole thing. 


Cute pink and blue drusy cab

Look! It’s a Pink + Purple + Blue Bisexual Pride Easter Egg!